Hanging out with friends can be lots of fun, but every now and then, a friendship can take a negative turn, leaving you wondering what went wrong. If you’re facing such a situation, here are some tips to help you out!

  • It may not be your fault. If a friendship has taken a turn for the worse, pause for a second and consider whether or not you’ve been a jerk to them lately. Depending on the situation, you could even ask your friend what’s going on. If the answer is no or your friend says you haven’t done anything, then don’t blame yourself. It probably has nothing to do with you!
  • Your friend may be going through something personal. Many times, if a friend seems to be drawing back or acting out of character, they’re really dealing with something that you don’t know about or wouldn’t be able to understand. Knowing this doesn’t justify their behavior, but it does make it easier to stop blaming yourself and move beyond the situation.
  • Be willing to apologize (even if you haven’t done anything wrong). On the other hand, if you find out that you have done something to hurt your friend, be willing to apologize. Even if you don’t feel like what you did was necessarily wrong, sometimes it’s better to humble yourself a little than to perpetuate an argument.
  • Don’t pass on the pain. Have you ever heard the saying, “Hurting people hurt people?” That saying is very true! When we’ve been hurt, it can be very tempting to lash out at those around us, causing them pain as well. This can lead to a damaging cycle of passing pain on from person to person like a white elephant gift that no one really wants. Choose to put an end to the cycle by allowing God to take it from you and enable you to respond with forgiveness and love!
  • Focus on the cross. The cross is good news both to the person who was hurt and the one who inflicted the pain. If you have wronged someone, it serves as a reminder that Jesus personally took that debt upon Himself, offering you forgiveness, grace, and blessings you don’t deserve. If you’ve been wronged, it reminds you that because Jesus took the other person’s debt upon Himself, He will more than repay you for all that you’ve suffered from their words and actions!


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